Rat Can't Read (she/her)<p>Another thing that has helped me in getting to this point of <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/SelfAcceptance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SelfAcceptance</span></a> is <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/kink" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kink</span></a>. Being into <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/BDSM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>BDSM</span></a> is another huge part of my <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/sexuality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>sexuality</span></a> that I denied and ignored for far too long, and for me at least, being <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/kinky" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kinky</span></a> and being <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>queer</span></a> are closely tied together. There are multiple ways in which my <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/desires" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>desires</span></a> don't fit into what is mainstream, and while I think there are discussions to be had about whether kink is inherently queer, for me, it is. Accepting myself as kinky and accepting myself as bisexual and queer have gone hand-in-hand. </p><p>Plus, the kink community, by and large, has been, in my experience, much more accepting of the full range of experiences someone can have as a <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/bisexual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bisexual</span></a>, in a way that certain more maintsteam <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> spaces have, again, in my experience, not been. In many kink spaces, you are who you say you are. Full stop. There isn't the same gatekeeping I've faced in vanilla queer circles.</p>